My mom was here just before Chrsitmas and I can't remember the exact story but she was really disappointed with someone, and she said she should lower her expectations. I said NO, you should just accept people for who they are and when they do something to disappoint you, you wouldn't be surprised because that's the way the are.
Well I'm eating my words because maybe you should drop your expectations. I always feel I put in the maximum effort in keeping in touch, writing emails, phoning friends/family, and when there is no response, no reply, no effort you feel - well - brushed off. Then I think; well they have full time jobs, they are busy putting their lives together or keeping their lives together so that would be expected wouldn't it. Well I am busy, granted I don't work but I work extrememly hard at keeping my family together doing everyday family things, I am really busy too. So then if I lowered my expectations would it be easier to accept? But on another note, if a family member breezes into town and doesn't tell you but you find out from another family member, should you be excited when you unexpectidly see them or irritated that you were the last to find out?
Aaahhhhh life, it's a muddle.
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